245 5th Ave #311, New York, NY 10016 / 80 Park St., Montclair, New Jersey 07042
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Tired of apps, crummy dates, and the entire dating scene?
Takeaway: If you’re struggling to build authentic relationships, you’re not alone. Together, we can work towards a better understanding of who you are and what you're looking for in relationships to build genuine, meaningful connections in your romantic life (and elsewhere).
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Ok, we'll be the first ones here to burst your bubble: there is no such thing as soul mates. Having grown up watching Disney and one too many Rom-Com movies, you've been highly misled to believe that a "knight and shining armor" and the "damsel in distress" are what you should be searching for in a partner.
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Before you start throwing tomatoes at us or running to the nearest matchmaking services, you may soon come to find that identifying your values, improving your self-esteem, and shifting the narrative you have about dating can go a long way on your road to finding your right partner.
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Read on if you're tired of experiencing failed relationships, done with inviting trouble into your life, wondering if you'll ever find someone, and wanting to learn more about our unique approach to relationship and dating therapy.
Our approach to dating therapy in NYC
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While the dating scene may fill you with dread as you consider how limited the dating pool is while swiping left on Tinder, our dating therapists and couples therapists are excited to share their dating and relationships secrets to support you in the navigation of dating and in creating sincere and fulfilling relationships.
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As humans, building sincere connections is necessary for supporting our social satisfaction and extends into how we feel about ourselves. We want you to have fun while dating and remain open to building beautiful relationships that can lead to long-term partner(s).
So, if you're ready to move past just having a sexual relationship to developing a long-term relationship(s) that are full of intimacy, connection, open communication, honesty, and genuine regard then reach out today.
Who our dating therapy services are for
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We work with clients recently divorced, newly entering the dating scene, are in polyamorous connections, and with those wanting to work on the relationship they have with themselves.
College & Young Adulthood:
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We all know that dating in college is not easy. One of the biggest times for random hookups, sexual experimentation, and difficulty navigating who is interested in who is during those pesky college years. Also, a major time for heartbreaks, as we enter the next phase of our life, traveling to a new part of the country, or focusing more on our careers. Anyone who is currently in college, or entering their young adulthood knows that this time is quite challenging when it comes to intimacy and knowing what we want and how to go about attaining it.
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Mature Relations:
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Whether you're going through a divorce, struggling with a long-term marriage, or reflecting on the loneliness you've been experiencing since neglecting dating as an adult, we welcome you to therapy. Middle age and beyond bring new personal insights and desires, development and growth, and enriching life experiences that can affect how you may feel about yourself and your current relationship. Changes in life, such as children leaving the home, losing a parent, or shifting religious views can alter a romantic relationship, leaving room for questions and curiosities.
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Widow, Widower, & Widowship:
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One of the most difficult life changes to experience is the loss of a partner or spouse. Whether the loss was expected, premature, or traumatic, loss brings a whole slew of difficulties. One of those is navigating the possibility of dating someone new. While respecting your lost loved ones and the memories you shared, dating may bring up difficult feelings, relationship complexities, and stuckness in knowing where and how to even start seeing someone again.
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Dating Yourself:
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Raise your hand if you need a break from dating. We get it! Going on dates can be super draining, especially when you've had a string of negative dating experiences, are recently broken up, or are tired of investing more energy into a relationship than you've received in return. We love working with clients who want to better understand themselves, improve their self-esteem, and develop personally so that when they are ready they can make space for the right partner or partners.
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Polyamory, Openships, & Gender Identity:
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Specializing in couples counseling, attachment, and relationships, our therapists enjoy working with all relational dynamics. Whether you are currently in a polyamorous relationship, are interested in exploring an open relationship, or would like to explore your gender identity and gender roles, you will be respected and supported. We work with members of the LGBTQIA2S+ community and represent a queer and gender-affirming practice.
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Sexuality, BDSM, & Kink:
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As kink-friendly, sex-positive, BDSM informed professionals, our clinicians strive to create a welcoming space to explore sex and play, safety and consent, and questions and curiosities as you explore your sexuality and sexual interests.
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If you're wondering whether we might be a good fit, we encourage you to reach out. One of our clinicians will return your submission form within 24-48 hours.
Why choose Authentically Living Psychological Services for dating counseling
Working with a therapist at Authentically Living Psychological Services can help you identify how you operate relationally so that you can tackle your next date with ease.
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Greater Self-Understanding:
One of the most rewarding elements of therapy is learning more about yourself. We'll focus on who you are as a human being and how you want to move about the world when it comes to social connections and intimate relations. You'll walk away from therapy feeling more aware of who you are, what you're wanting, and how to create and satisfy those relational desires.
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Value Identification:
Through depth-oriented and reflective questions and conversations we'll uncover your values and areas of most importance in your life. Whether that be art and music, knowledge and education, money and success, or spending time in nature, you'll be able to narrowly identify what is meaningful to you and how those areas may influence what you're seeking in others.
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Improved Confidence:
As we work on better learning who you are, you'll be able to recognize a shift in your self-confidence. The better we can identify elements of our identity, the better we can express those elements, and ultimately feel more comfortable in our own skin. An exciting part of therapy is exploring different identities, values, and self-expression, and remaining open to growth as your identity continues to shift over time.
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Crystalized Characteristics:
No one you meet will be a walking checklist, but you'll be damn sure you know the traits and characteristics you are looking for in a partner(s). Not only will you be able to identify what you're looking for in a mate, but by experiencing a renewed sense of self, you'll feel comfortable asserting those needs. Say goodbye to "dead-beats" and "gold-diggers."
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Self-Advocation & Boundaries:
As result of better knowing who you are, what your values are, and how you'd describe and express your identity, you'll better be able to practice self-advocation and boundary setting: learning how to say "no" when you don't want to participate in a certain activity, expressing your needs when you are not feeling heard, and allowing yourself to take up space when having a conversation.
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Comfort in Dating:
Bet you never thought you'd feel comfortable dating. Well, welcome to your new reality: walking into a date feeling grounded, confident, and excited to get to know the person(s) sitting across from you. Relieved in your comfort when expressing vulnerability and in sharing details about yourself - and able to ask thought-provoking questions that get at the meat and potatoes of what you actually want to learn about someone to see if they'd be a good addition to your life.
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Improved Communication Skills:
Yep! Not only will you be able to assert boundaries, and advocate for yourself, but you'll also be able to engage in dialogue, have difficult conversations, partake in conflict resolution, actively listen, maintain respect, attend to nonverbals, and express yourself with clarity.
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Fulfilling Relationships:
Ultimately, you'll be able to lead a life that consists of forming genuine and sincere relationships, feeling more connected to who you are, those you choose to be a part of your life, and your larger world context.
FAQ Dating & Relationship Therapy
Get the support you need to authentically connect with yourself and others.
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With a directive and human-first approach, our clinicians can provide you with the support you need to authentically connect with yourself and with others. We encourage you to reach out today for a free consultation call.
