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Grief Counseling NYC

We offer more than grief support — we offer presence.


At Authentically Living Psych, our NYC therapists create space for you to process the existential weight of loss, the complex emotions society often silences, and the ongoing question: What now?
 

  • We don’t rush or pathologize your grief — we stay with it.

  • We welcome your shame, numbness, anger, dread, and confusion.

  • We don’t set goals for your healing. We explore what it means to live through loss, not get over it.

  • We support you in setting boundaries, expressing your needs, and redefining who you are in the aftermath.​

  • We help you reflect, remember, and reorient: How do I want to live now? What still matters? What do I carry forward?
     

Your grief deserves more than a fix. It deserves time, space, and someone to sit with you in it.

Are you alone in your grief and tired of being invalidated?

Takeaway: Grief and loss are complex, multifaceted, and often long-term. At Authentically Living Psychological Services, we take a relational and person-centered approach to supporting our clients through grief and loss. Our therapists understand the varying emotional, psychological, physical, and cognitive toll that comes with grief, and create space for sitting in despair while making efforts to create moments of meaning and fulfillment with our clients. We work with both traditional loss and disenfranchised grief. 

Types of loss we work with:

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  • Typical Loss

  • Chronic Illness/Loss of Ability

  • Job Loss

  • Relationship loss (I.e. divorce, community, estrangement)

  • Death by suicide

  • Miscarriage, Abortion, Infertility

  • Pet Loss

  • Loss of identity

  • Loss of freedom

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Meet Sapira Cahana | Grief counselor in NYC

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Sapira Cahana is a New York based Mental Health Counselor specializing in grief and loss. Motivated by  her own lived experiences and teachings, Sapira Cahana is a highly regarded grief therapist, known for her compassionate, deeply reflective approach to loss and healing. With a rich background in philosophy and chaplaincy, Sapira brings a unique perspective to grief counseling—bridging existential insight with emotional support. Her work is grounded in the belief that grief is not a problem to be fixed, but a sacred process to be witnessed and honored. Drawing from her extensive training as a hospital chaplain and her academic foundation in philosophical inquiry, Sapira creates space for individuals to explore complex emotions, find meaning after loss, and navigate life transitions with dignity and depth.To her, therapy process is rooted in the belief that within the abyss of wisdom lies at the heart of all healing.

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​​A message from Sapira:

"I believe that therapy is not about labeling or reducing you to your behaviors or choices, that is not the sum of you. Instead, it is about recognizing that you are in a continual process of seeking, evolving, and experimenting with different ways of Being. Life is both precious and precarious, and through our work together, we will engage in an exploration that allows meaning to emerge in ways that reverberates the Self you feel most close to and the life you are wanting to lead."

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Meet Dr. Cynthia Shaw | Grief counselor in NYC

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Dr. Cynthia Shaw is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, existential therapist, and grief certified professional. She is the owner and founder of Authentically Living Psychological Services and works with adults residing across New York State and New York City looking for support in their grief healing journey. Dr. Shaw's approach to grief counseling is relational, process-oriented, existential, and trauma-informed. She values authenticity and genuine regard, and as a Northeast native is true to her direct and forthcoming communication style. She blends sincere empathy, dark humor (when appropriate), love, and respect for all those who work with her.

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Dr. Shaw was trained as an existential therapist under the supervision and mentorship of internationally renowned psychologists Dr. Todd DuBose and Dr. Miles Groth. She sought additional training with Dr. Kirk Schneider through The Existential Humanistic Institute, as well as through literature from Drs. Emmy Van Deurzen and Ernesto Spinelli. She incorporates teachings from Laing, Frankl, Sartre, Nietzsche, Heidegger, and Yalom when working with clients. Dr. Shaw has additional education in the area of grief therapy, holding a certification as a grief professional.

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Dr. Shaw's interest in supporting her clients through grief was motivated not only by her own experiences of loss but also by the pains and difficulties loss has plagued many of her loved ones. Whether that be the loss of physiological abilities, the loss of a relationship, the loss of financial security, or the loss of a loved one, Dr. Shaw was struck with how such losses drastically affected people across many areas of their lives. Grief is rather taboo, not only in mainstream society but even in the therapy world; many therapists are uncomfortable with loss and struggle to sit with such conversations. This acknowledgment further motivated Dr. Shaw's desire to help those who are already feeling so isolated in their experiences. Dr. Shaw appreciates the difficulties and complexities that come with grief, social judgments and expectations often displaced onto those grieving, and the vulnerability it takes to explore such pains. Moving at the pace of her clients preference, Dr. Shaw strives to create an unfiltered space, allowing her clients to truly express themselves towards greater self-understanding and a semblance of comfort admits a world that is surrounded by loss.

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Common signs that you could benefit from grief counseling

If you are experiencing any emotional, physiological, or cognitive disruptions after a loss you may benefit from grief counseling.​

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Intense & Complicated Grief:  

If you find that your grief is intense, all-encompassing, considerably distressing, and persists for a long period, you may benefit from grief therapy. A grief therapist can provide support and a safe space to explore these intense experiences and feelings.

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Social Withdrawal & Loneliness:

If you are feeling burdened by loneliness and are socially withdrawing to avoid reality and your neighbor's smiling faces, therapy can be a place to lean into those difficulties.

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If you are experiencing a disruption in memory, an overactive nervous system, and difficulty attending to the present moment, our New York City grief therapists can provide you with the resources to develop skills for stress reduction, cognitive flexibility, as well as mindfulness and meditative practices for self-soothing and present focused living.

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Difficulty Completing Activities of Daily Living:

If you are noticing the dishes in the sink piling up, dust bunnies in the corner of your bedroom, and a mild human stank from struggling to bathe, therapy can be a place to collaboratively brainstorm a treatment plan that supports you through your healing journey.

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Regrets:

If you are experiencing regrets related to your loss and believe it is affecting your healing then grief counseling may be for you. Sessions can focus on how to come to terms with regrets and through therapeutic processing can aid in managing and letting go of such experiences that are keeping you stuck in grief.

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Existential Thoughts:

If you are having existential anxiety related to death, existential reflection related to your meaning, and existential confusions about who you are as an individual, therapy is an explorative opportunity towards a renewed self and identification of what is meaningful to you.

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Loss of Hope & Suicidal Thoughts:

If you are experiencing low self-regard, reduced self-compassion, loss of hope, a reduced desire to live, and are contemplating suicide it's imperative you reach out to your local emergency hotline or seek grief therapy.

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Looking for Space:

You don't necessarily need a specific reason to seek therapy when grieving. Often those who are grieving don't know what they are even looking for when reaching out for therapy. Sometimes we just need space to be in the company of another person to sit with our grief. Therapy is a space that is judgment free, where validation, safety, and company are provided.

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Why choose Authentically Living Psychological Services for grief counseling

Our grief therapists at Authentically Living Psychological Services are not only ethically sound and clinically competent, relying on up-to-date practice and treatment modalities needed to support our clients, but are also genuine, heartfelt, and down-to-earth - making it easier to talk about the complexities and vulnerabilities that come with grieving. Dr. Shaw and her team are dedicated to providing warmth, care, and sincere regard for your health, wellness, and continued success.

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Our grief therapy is unique in that we focus on the following:

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  • We strive to create a safe space for you to process the significance of your loss and how the effects are multifaceted.

  • We provide validation regarding the varying emotional experiences you have within your grief, even those experiences less accepted and that may come with shame.

  • We take a person-centered approach, which means we will not rush your grief.

  • We sit with your existential anxieties on mortality, and the dread and hopelessness that sometimes accompanies such awareness.

  • We are nondirective, which means we enter the space open to where the session will lead us organically.

  • We aim to ease pressures often experienced socially by limiting the use of goal setting and entering the space without intention.

  • We encourage the practice of self advocation, boundary setting, and expression of needs to others.

  • We ask challenging questions to aid in-depth work needed to better understand who you are and what your values are towards a newfound self.

  • We provide support in your self-development amidst grief and what it means for you to live a purposeful life.

  • We accept your current set of coping skills, even those that may be less adaptive.

  • We provide psychoeducation: stress reduction tools, mindfulness, grounding exercises, and ways to cultivate wellness.

  • We explore ways you can connect with yourself, others, and the world around you.

  • We collaboratively identify activities to memorialize loss, in addition to exploring ways to foster greater independence and comfort and confidence with yourself.

  • We stay with you through the highs and the lows of your journey and are there to remind you that grieving isn't something that just goes away.

  • We are dedicated to the therapeutic relationship and welcome feedback to further our development in how to best assist you.

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Our grief therapy is special in that we truly hear what it is you are saying (even when you are not speaking). We immerse ourselves in sessions so that you feel seen, validated, and less alone. We hope that you walk away from sessions feeling the slightest bit of hope that your grief will not always feel all-encompassing and that you trust that the therapeutic process will be supportive in the development of yourself and towards some semblance of inner calm and connectedness.

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  • What type of counseling is best for grief?
    There are many different types of counseling practices for addressing grief. The choice of modality is specific to the provider, as well as the assessment of client needs, preferences, and the nature of grief. Below are common counseling services typically provided for grief: Existential & Humanistic Therapy: Existential and humanistic therapy are interconnected therapies that focus on self-understanding while confronting limitations to being human, such as death, illness, and demise, responsibilities and freedom to make choices, and what it means to be authentic. The therapies highlight the integration of exploring meaning, purpose, and personal fulfillment while recognizing and challenging the irony of pointlessness and the inevitability of loss. Positive Psychology: Positive psychology has similarities to existential and humanistic therapy, as it focuses on promoting wellness and self-growth despite loss. Positive psychology is more strength-based and relies on personal resiliency, meaningful goals, and gratitude to navigate grief. Art & Expressive Therapy: Expressive therapies include the use of creative art interventions such as drawing, writing, painting, singing, dancing, and acting to process grief and loss. The use of mainstream talk therapy can sometimes be challenging for those who are grieving, and thus resorting to nonverbal forms of expression can be cathartic and supportive. Narrative Therapy: Similar to Expressive therapies and Positive Psychology, Narrative therapy focuses on allowing a person to story and describe their experience of loss. Identifying personal resiliency and noted strengths, narrative therapy further focuses on the re-narrating or re-storying of the loss; It provides an opportunity to notice new perspectives as we move through loss. Mindfulness-Based Therapy: Helpful as an additive to all modalities, especially for those grieving, Mindfulness-Based Therapy focuses on incorporating stress reduction tools, meditation practices, and mindfulness exercises to aid in down-regulating one's heightened nervous system, self-soothe, and ground an individual. Logotherapy: A branch of Existential therapy, Logotherapy is also an additive therapy that focuses specifically on creating meaning. Even in the face of suffering, Logotherapy highlight how we can still choose to create meaning. For unchanging situations, such as after loss, incorporating attitudinal shifts is a primary focus of logotherapy. Transpersonal Psychology & Grief Therapy: Known as a spiritual and holistic form of therapy, Transpersonal psychology focuses on experiences of interconnectedness such as during states of flow, sereneness, and meditation, and while using certain therapeutic substances, such as psychedelics. In the context of grief, this modality can help a person striving for connection with nature, and greater self alignment, and those interested in exploring their spiritual and religious beliefs and connections. Group & Family Therapy: As highlighted above, Group and Family therapy are effective modalities for those looking for greater communal support, collective processing, and learning how to better communicate and connect. Our practice offers a variety of the modalities presented above. If you have questions about a modality that you do not see listed, please contact us and a member of our staff will return your inquiry in 24-48 hours.
  • Is group therapy good for grief?
    Group therapy is a supportive modality for addressing grief, as it provides a space for peer support, communal validation, decreased isolation and loneliness, normalization of certain experiences, and an opportunity to share without fear of judgment. Group therapy encourages the expression of difficult emotions that may be more challenging to have with friends and colleagues, and is a platform for practicing how to advocate for your needs. Our grief therapy group offers a unique opportunity to utilize creative practices to express and address grief, that doesn't solely rely on the use of verbal processing. We have found that grief is often difficult to talk about and that words do not always express our experiences justly. In addition to creative interventions, such as writing, drawing, and painting, our incorporation of mindfulness exercises aids in down-regulating your nervous system at the end of group, and are additional tools for you to practice at your leisure when overwhelmed with the distress of grief. If you are interested in learning more about our grief group and whether this might be a good fit for you, reach out by clicking here. A member of our staff will return your inquiry in 24-48 hours.
  • How soon should you have bereavement counseling?
    The timing for starting bereavement therapy is different from person to person. Taking into account the nature of a loss, a person's readiness and interest in therapy, availability of supportive factors and coping skills, and cultural factors can influence when and if a person will seek bereavement counseling. It's important to remember that the healing process is unique for everyone and so there is no right or wrong time to seek therapy and that regardless of when your loss occurred, it is never too late to start grief therapy.
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Grief counseling can help you find meaning after loss. 

At Authentically Living Psychological Services we embody existential philosophies and value the importance of being human when working with those who are experiencing loss and grief. If you are a resident of New York looking to gain support through grief therapy we encourage you to reach out today.

We will look forward to working with you and appreciate your trust.

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