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Top-Rated Self Esteem Therapy New York

Takeaway: All kinds of life experiences can make it hard to feel comfortable in your own skin. Thankfully, therapy for self-esteem can help. Meet our clinicians and take the first step toward learning how to fully embrace your authentic self. 

Common signs of low self esteem

There's nothing worse than being consumed by low self-esteem. Viewing yourself negatively, struggling to give yourself grace, and believing that you are not worthy can make it difficult to live a life that makes you feel excited about getting up in the morning. Low self-esteem can not only do a number on your self-confidence, but also can cause low mood, poor motivation, decreased concentration, rumination, poor sleep and hygiene routines, as well as a disruption in your relationships and future goals. Below is a list of common signs of low self-esteem:

1

Negative self-talk: 

It is common for those who struggle with low self-esteem to experience an inner dialogue that includes self-criticism. The internal world may be laced with self hatred, self-deprecation, and your worst inner critic. 

2

Negative beliefs:

Low self esteem can be so overwhelming that it begins to color how we see the world. Our outlook on life, how we view other people, and our considerations for the future may seem dim. 

3

Negative thoughts: 

Combined with our negative views and belief system, so often comes negative thought patterns, rumination, and even thoughts about death and suicide. 

5

Limited self-compassion:

When we experience low self-esteem, it's common to experience perfectionism, unattainable self expectations, as well as a tendency to compare ourselves to others. With this usually comes limited capacities to provide ourselves with grace, self-compassion, and the reminder that we are human. 

6

Poor mental health:

Having low self-esteem can drastically affect mood, leading to bouts of anxiety, depression, social anxiety, obsessive compulsive patterns, as well as poor means of coping such as a reliance on drugs, alcohol, and other forms of self-harm. 

4

No sense of self:

Those who have poor self-confidence may also have a poor sense of self, struggling to understand who they are. This may lead to further low self worth and a lack of self-respect. 

7

Lack of self care:

When we view ourselves in a negative light and our mental health begins to falter, it makes taking care of ourselves challenging. We may also believe that we don't "deserve" wellness leading to limited participation in self-care activities. 

8

Social withdrawal:

Due to insecurity, social anxiety, discomfort in our own skin, we may choose to draw the blinds, stay in bed, and isolate ourselves from others making forming meaningful relationships next to impossible. 

9

Indecisiveness: 

Those of us who experience low self-esteem, may struggle with a sense of identity, leading to difficulty making decisions and self-doubt. If we don't know who we are, what our values are, and what we believe is important, it can be challenging to make decisions that are in line with such values and beliefs. 

While poor self-confidence may seem inescapable, a self-esteem therapist can provide you with the support and guidance to improve your self-worth and overall mental health, and learn how to navigate life's challenges, work towards self-acceptance, and identify a future that feels worth living and striving for. 

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About Authentically Living Psychological Services

Deciding to invest time and energy into therapy can be even more challenging when you are struggling with a poor sense of self. At Authentically Living Psychological Services our mental health professionals provide self-esteem counseling to foster and build healthy self-esteem through a supportive environment. Our approach is laced with human understanding and compassion. We pride ourselves in being able to meet our clients where they are, and assisting them in evaluating their life desires, exploring past pains and traumas, disrupting current harmful patterns, and learning to incorporate self-care. Woven with existential philosophy and human-centered practices, our therapy focuses on self-understanding, self-love, improvement in confidence, and fulfillment in relationships, careers, and inner peace.

Who our self esteem therapy services are for

Self-esteem counseling can be helpful for a wide range of individuals looking to build self-esteem, better understand themselves, identify their goals, build fulfilling relationships and experiences, and develop their sense of self and overall identity.

  • What type of counseling is best for grief?
    There are many different types of counseling practices for addressing grief. The choice of modality is specific to the provider, as well as the assessment of client needs, preferences, and the nature of grief. Below are common counseling services typically provided for grief: Existential & Humanistic Therapy: Existential and humanistic therapy are interconnected therapies that focus on self-understanding while confronting limitations to being human, such as death, illness, and demise, responsibilities and freedom to make choices, and what it means to be authentic. The therapies highlight the integration of exploring meaning, purpose, and personal fulfillment while recognizing and challenging the irony of pointlessness and the inevitability of loss. Positive Psychology: Positive psychology has similarities to existential and humanistic therapy, as it focuses on promoting wellness and self-growth despite loss. Positive psychology is more strength-based and relies on personal resiliency, meaningful goals, and gratitude to navigate grief. Art & Expressive Therapy: Expressive therapies include the use of creative art interventions such as drawing, writing, painting, singing, dancing, and acting to process grief and loss. The use of mainstream talk therapy can sometimes be challenging for those who are grieving, and thus resorting to nonverbal forms of expression can be cathartic and supportive. Narrative Therapy: Similar to Expressive therapies and Positive Psychology, Narrative therapy focuses on allowing a person to story and describe their experience of loss. Identifying personal resiliency and noted strengths, narrative therapy further focuses on the re-narrating or re-storying of the loss; It provides an opportunity to notice new perspectives as we move through loss. Mindfulness-Based Therapy: Helpful as an additive to all modalities, especially for those grieving, Mindfulness-Based Therapy focuses on incorporating stress reduction tools, meditation practices, and mindfulness exercises to aid in down-regulating one's heightened nervous system, self-soothe, and ground an individual. Logotherapy: A branch of Existential therapy, Logotherapy is also an additive therapy that focuses specifically on creating meaning. Even in the face of suffering, Logotherapy highlight how we can still choose to create meaning. For unchanging situations, such as after loss, incorporating attitudinal shifts is a primary focus of logotherapy. Transpersonal Psychology & Grief Therapy: Known as a spiritual and holistic form of therapy, Transpersonal psychology focuses on experiences of interconnectedness such as during states of flow, sereneness, and meditation, and while using certain therapeutic substances, such as psychedelics. In the context of grief, this modality can help a person striving for connection with nature, and greater self alignment, and those interested in exploring their spiritual and religious beliefs and connections. Group & Family Therapy: As highlighted above, Group and Family therapy are effective modalities for those looking for greater communal support, collective processing, and learning how to better communicate and connect. Our practice offers a variety of the modalities presented above. If you have questions about a modality that you do not see listed, please contact us and a member of our staff will return your inquiry in 24-48 hours.
  • Is group therapy good for grief?
    Group therapy is a supportive modality for addressing grief, as it provides a space for peer support, communal validation, decreased isolation and loneliness, normalization of certain experiences, and an opportunity to share without fear of judgment. Group therapy encourages the expression of difficult emotions that may be more challenging to have with friends and colleagues, and is a platform for practicing how to advocate for your needs. Our grief therapy group offers a unique opportunity to utilize creative practices to express and address grief, that doesn't solely rely on the use of verbal processing. We have found that grief is often difficult to talk about and that words do not always express our experiences justly. In addition to creative interventions, such as writing, drawing, and painting, our incorporation of mindfulness exercises aids in down-regulating your nervous system at the end of group, and are additional tools for you to practice at your leisure when overwhelmed with the distress of grief. If you are interested in learning more about our grief group and whether this might be a good fit for you, reach out by clicking here. A member of our staff will return your inquiry in 24-48 hours.
  • How soon should you have bereavement counseling?
    The timing for starting bereavement therapy is different from person to person. Taking into account the nature of a loss, a person's readiness and interest in therapy, availability of supportive factors and coping skills, and cultural factors can influence when and if a person will seek bereavement counseling. It's important to remember that the healing process is unique for everyone and so there is no right or wrong time to seek therapy and that regardless of when your loss occurred, it is never too late to start grief therapy.

2 Top-Rated Therapists for Self Esteem

Cynthia Shaw

Dr. Shaw is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and owner of Authentically Living Psychological Services. She founded the practice to provide services to those interested in depth-oriented work and for those who struggle with low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression, and in their relationships with others, themselves, and their larger world context. She envisioned a group practice where holistic and philosophical approaches to practice are encouraged and used to support clients make sense of their existence in a world that feels overwhelming and where one can get lost in the chaos of life. Learn more about Dr. Shaw below.

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  • Credentials:

    • Licensed Clinical Psychologist

    • Grief Informed Professional

    • Approved Clinical Supervisor

  • License numbers:

    • PsyPact: 14381

    • New York: 025643

    • New Jersey: 35SI00702400

    • Illinois: 071.010599

    • North Carolina: 6535

  • Education/degree:

    • Doctorate in Clinical Psychology

    • Generalist Adult Track

    • Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology

    • Bachelor of Arts in Psychology with a Minor in English

  • Teletherapy

    • PsyPact Certified to practice in 40 states. Find out if your state is included here.

    • Additional licenses in New York, New Jersey, Illinois, and North Carolina

  • Providing therapy since 2015

    • Experience: private practice, psychiatric in-patient hospitals, health psychology/in-patient, forensic unit/hospital, schools, assisted living facilities, methadone maintenance clinics.

    • Past clientele:

      • children, adolescents, and adults

      • psychotic disorders, substance use disorders, personality disorders, anxiety and mood disorders, trauma disorders, neurodevelopment disorders, eating disorders, sexual disorders, conduct disorders, neurocognitive disorders, and paraphilic disorders.

    • Current clientele:

      • adolescents and adults

      • existential anxiety, health anxiety, social anxiety, low self-esteem, death anxiety, poor sense of self, depression, loneliness, difficulty forming genuine relationships, entrepreneurs, perfectionists, high achievers, nostalgic thinkers, emotionally sensitive, men's issues, spiritual questioning.

  • Modalities used:

    • existential philosophy (phenomenology)

    • humanistic and relational

    • acceptance and commitment therapy

    • gestalt therapy

    • logotherapy

    • person-centered

    • process and strengths-based

    • trauma-informed

    • compassion-focused

    • mindfulness-based.

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Jaclyn Paradise

Dr. Shaw works alongside Ms. Jaclyn Paradise, a New Jersey-based Licensed Associate Counselor who specializes in working with self-esteem and those looking to better develop their sense of identity. She enjoys working from a holistic and mindfulness-based approach to help those struggling with mental health conditions such as self-esteem, panic attacks, and trauma.

  • Credentials:

    • Licensed Associate Counselor

    • Certified Trauma Professional

    • Certified Mindfulness Informed Professional

    • Yoga Teacher Certified

  • License numbers:

    • New Jersey: 37AC00745300

  • Education/degree:

    • Master of Arts in Clinical Mental Health Counseling

    • Bachelor of Arts in Psychology

  • Teletherapy

    • New Jersey

    • Additional licenses upon receiving LPC

  • Providing therapy since 2021

    • Experience: substance-use clinics, partial hospitalization, and intensive outpatient settings, private practice, intake coordination

    • Past clientele:

      • adolescents and adults

      • mood disorders, anxiety disorders, substance use disorders, trauma disorders, personality disorders

    • Current clientele:

      • adults

      • anxiety, panic attacks, low self-esteem, poor sense of self, trauma, first responders, military personnel, codependency and other relationship difficulties, assertiveness development, identity development, inner-child needs, perfectionists, high achievers, emotionally sensitive, men's issues.

  • Modalities used:

    • trauma-informed

    • mindfulness-based.

    • holistic and somatic

    • humanistic and relational

    • person-centered

    • psychodynamic

    • process and strengths-based

    • compassion-focused

    • yoga-philosophy

    • dialectical behavior therapy

    • cognitive behavioral therapy

  • Read More Here

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  • What type of counseling is best for grief?
    There are many different types of counseling practices for addressing grief. The choice of modality is specific to the provider, as well as the assessment of client needs, preferences, and the nature of grief. Below are common counseling services typically provided for grief: Existential & Humanistic Therapy: Existential and humanistic therapy are interconnected therapies that focus on self-understanding while confronting limitations to being human, such as death, illness, and demise, responsibilities and freedom to make choices, and what it means to be authentic. The therapies highlight the integration of exploring meaning, purpose, and personal fulfillment while recognizing and challenging the irony of pointlessness and the inevitability of loss. Positive Psychology: Positive psychology has similarities to existential and humanistic therapy, as it focuses on promoting wellness and self-growth despite loss. Positive psychology is more strength-based and relies on personal resiliency, meaningful goals, and gratitude to navigate grief. Art & Expressive Therapy: Expressive therapies include the use of creative art interventions such as drawing, writing, painting, singing, dancing, and acting to process grief and loss. The use of mainstream talk therapy can sometimes be challenging for those who are grieving, and thus resorting to nonverbal forms of expression can be cathartic and supportive. Narrative Therapy: Similar to Expressive therapies and Positive Psychology, Narrative therapy focuses on allowing a person to story and describe their experience of loss. Identifying personal resiliency and noted strengths, narrative therapy further focuses on the re-narrating or re-storying of the loss; It provides an opportunity to notice new perspectives as we move through loss. Mindfulness-Based Therapy: Helpful as an additive to all modalities, especially for those grieving, Mindfulness-Based Therapy focuses on incorporating stress reduction tools, meditation practices, and mindfulness exercises to aid in down-regulating one's heightened nervous system, self-soothe, and ground an individual. Logotherapy: A branch of Existential therapy, Logotherapy is also an additive therapy that focuses specifically on creating meaning. Even in the face of suffering, Logotherapy highlight how we can still choose to create meaning. For unchanging situations, such as after loss, incorporating attitudinal shifts is a primary focus of logotherapy. Transpersonal Psychology & Grief Therapy: Known as a spiritual and holistic form of therapy, Transpersonal psychology focuses on experiences of interconnectedness such as during states of flow, sereneness, and meditation, and while using certain therapeutic substances, such as psychedelics. In the context of grief, this modality can help a person striving for connection with nature, and greater self alignment, and those interested in exploring their spiritual and religious beliefs and connections. Group & Family Therapy: As highlighted above, Group and Family therapy are effective modalities for those looking for greater communal support, collective processing, and learning how to better communicate and connect. Our practice offers a variety of the modalities presented above. If you have questions about a modality that you do not see listed, please contact us and a member of our staff will return your inquiry in 24-48 hours.
  • Is group therapy good for grief?
    Group therapy is a supportive modality for addressing grief, as it provides a space for peer support, communal validation, decreased isolation and loneliness, normalization of certain experiences, and an opportunity to share without fear of judgment. Group therapy encourages the expression of difficult emotions that may be more challenging to have with friends and colleagues, and is a platform for practicing how to advocate for your needs. Our grief therapy group offers a unique opportunity to utilize creative practices to express and address grief, that doesn't solely rely on the use of verbal processing. We have found that grief is often difficult to talk about and that words do not always express our experiences justly. In addition to creative interventions, such as writing, drawing, and painting, our incorporation of mindfulness exercises aids in down-regulating your nervous system at the end of group, and are additional tools for you to practice at your leisure when overwhelmed with the distress of grief. If you are interested in learning more about our grief group and whether this might be a good fit for you, reach out by clicking here. A member of our staff will return your inquiry in 24-48 hours.
  • How soon should you have bereavement counseling?
    The timing for starting bereavement therapy is different from person to person. Taking into account the nature of a loss, a person's readiness and interest in therapy, availability of supportive factors and coping skills, and cultural factors can influence when and if a person will seek bereavement counseling. It's important to remember that the healing process is unique for everyone and so there is no right or wrong time to seek therapy and that regardless of when your loss occurred, it is never too late to start grief therapy.
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We’re here to help you build self-awareness and self esteem.

If you're tired of having low morale, painful feelings, negative core beliefs, and a sense of directionlessness then it's time to reach out to a therapist. Guided by our passion for helping others live a life worth living, our approach to therapy is human, understanding, compassionate, strengths-based, and encouraging. If you're curious to learn more about our services and the many benefits therapy can have on your life we highly encourage you to reach out. We look forward to hearing from you and moving one step closer to selflove and self-fulfillment. 

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